Also, another reason why Jewish daters are able to achieve a lasting and strong relationship is because they use their religious background as a way to resolve problems. By sharing the same faith, you are able to overcome problem by using religion together. Most people from the Jewish religion have been raised to marry someone within the same faith. Depending where you are, it may be difficult to find someone who shares your same religious beliefs which is why Jewish

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Imagine that the girl you’ve got a crush on gets involved in a relationship a day before you get up the nerve to ask her out. Even though you’ve sat patiently at your computer, checking in on her Facebook page whenever possible, you just weren’t quick enough to act before some other Joe Somebody stepped in and did what you did not do and put the moves on her like Don Juan come-again.

Her new relationship unbeknownst to you, of course, you put on your shiny shoes, comb that half head of hair over with volume gel, spray on some Brute, and show up at her door to finally ask her out, only to find some Buff Bufferson there in your face shooting you the evil eye.

Talk about egg on your face; it’s like you fell face first into a henhouse.

If only there was an app to prevent such disaster…

Now, a new Facebook application called the Breakup Notifier alerts you via email of your FB friends’ relationship status changes.

This is a controversial app, to say the least, as it stands out as a little bit creepy in premise. Every time your “crush” changes his or her relationship status, you receive instant notification. This, of course, is something many people consider to be an invasion of privacy, but in reality it simply sends their public information over to you instantly.

If you’re already on their friends list, this is information you would be privy to as soon as you decided to check in; the difference here is that the info is sent to you via email as it happens.

Breakup Notifier was initially founded by Dan Loewenherz, supposedly as a joke, stemming from a conversation he overheard between his then girlfriend and eventual mother-in-law.

Loewenherz states about the conversation, “I heard [them] talking about a guy that they wanted to set up my fiancée’s sister with. And they were probably talking about it for at least 15 minutes and at the end of the conversation they were interested in looking at some photos of him on Facebook and so they went on Facebook and they immediately found out that he had a girlfriend. So at that point they were kind of bummed. And ... I thought maybe it would be cool if they would be interested in [being notified] when a relationship ended.”

This was the spark of creativity, the “flash of genius,” if you will, that led Loewenherz to create a software application called the Breakup Notifier. After only four hours of work, the program was launched on February 20 and over 10,000 people downloaded the app within a week.

However, not everyone was feeling the same enthusiasm about the Breakup Notifier. In fact, it received so much criticism for being flat-out invasive that Facebook quickly blocked it after its first week.

Loewenherz went back to the lab and reinvented his wheel, naming it the Crush Notifier, and changed its basic operations by differentiating between an unwilling stalker victim and one half of a mutual crush.

Instead of anyone receiving instant notifications about everyone’s relationship status, the Crush Notifier requires that people have a crush on one another before notifications are sent.

Shortly after the release of the gussied-up Crush Notifier, Facebook decided to unblock the Breakup Notifier, seemingly coming to the conclusion that it wasn’t that “creepy” after all – or, more likely, realizing that another popular app means more people buying Facebook credits.

Loewenherz and FB are now charging for both applications. By purchasing 50 Facebook credits, roughly $5, you can have the opportunity to follow five crushes with the Crush Notifier. And to monitor (stalk?) a friend’s relationship status via the initial Breakup Notifier, it will cost you around $1 per person, or 10 credits.

According to Loewenherz, feedback for the Crush Notifier is almost 100% positive, while the Breakup Notifier is still receiving mixed reviews.

In many ways, it is quite hard to understand what the issue is once you get over the fact that someone may be closely monitoring your relationship status with the intentions of pouncing on you like a rabid dog. Sure, that can be a little unsettling at first, but why do people bother posting and changing their relationship status if not so others can see it?
It is on par with fame-starved celebrities acting out for attention, begging the world to look at them, and then lashing out at a camera man when they’re having an “off” day and feeling as if their privacy is being violated.

From the outside looking in, it seems fairly illogical to want it both ways – to want to show your status to the world but then cry foul when someone monitors it a little too closely for your liking. But, then again, avid status changers on Facebook may not be your normal folk to begin with.

The Crush Notifier is safe and will remain so. The mutual “crushing” is something everyone can agree is kosher. The Breakup Notifier, however, remains a controversial piece of software, and its future is ultimately in doubt.

When speaking about the Breakup Notifier, Anne Hollonds, Chief Executive of Relationships Australia NSW stated that the app was "interesting because you could think of it as either completely creepy or actually really useful". [In] some ways it's possibly one of the most useful things that Facebook could do because, if that's what people are using Facebook for, some of them - is to keep tabs on a crush - then it certainly makes it a whole lot easier, doesn't it?"

But on the downside to this type of application, people being legitimately stalked via the web may not have the slightest idea.

The possible cure: keep your relationship status to yourself if you do not wish for people to know about it. Personal information is best kept personal if you wish it to remain that way.

And if you want to know about someone’s status, if they’re willing and ready to place it out there, the Breakup Notifier is the perfect piece of software to give you the heads-up when your crush is newly single and possibly ready to mingle.

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How “He’s Just Not That into You” Really Relates to Your Love Life

Most girls on the dating scene have encountered brick walls before. There’s nothing really new there. Whether he tells you that he’s just getting out of a bad relationship, his career is limiting his time, or even if he basically gives the cold shoulder, you can bet that he’s not playing hard to get. Like the book says: he’s just not that into you.

Is it true – is he really simply not into you? Well, every case is obviously different, but this best-selling dating book is a best-selling book for a good reason: it exposes a lot about men that they really don’t want exposed, like their simplistic nature at the root of it all. More than that, it exposes a truth that many women simply don’t want to face, and that’s that some guys simply aren’t buying what they’re being sold.

This can be harsh and hard, cruel and cold, but anyone on the dating scene has to realize where the truth lies in order to cut their losses and make a clean break. Dusting yourself off and getting back on the dating horse is an important step for you or anyone else who has had the misfortune of running into a guy who’s simply not feeling you the way you’re feeling him.

What makes this book different from the rest of the dating books out there? For starters, it’s not a niche guide to online dating or a tipster piece telling you how to hopefully land your very own prince charming. The writers, Liz Tuccillo and Greg Behrendt, are famously known for their work on HBO’s hit series Sex and the City, now a successful movie franchise, and judging by the realism of the New York dating scene expressed through the onscreen characters, it’s a safe bet that these writers know a thing or few about relationships.

The book has been made into a movie but perhaps is most famously known for being promoted on the Oprah Winfrey show. Every single thing that woman touches turns to gold, and President Barack Obama should be kissing Oprah’s diamond-studded toenails for getting him elected as President of the United States. True story.

At the heart of He’s Just Not That into You, the cold, hard truth is delivered to women who think their love interests are simply a little aloof. It shatters the myths about guys not calling or not wanting to come up for “coffee” or not asking you out being a little slow to act.

Dealing with the excuse-making ways of some women a little slower to meet and shake reality’s hand, He’s Just Not That into You can basically be described as both a motivational and instructional piece wherein women can learn to spot the signs and effectively deal with men who aren’t into them.

Culture of Victimhood

One key issue the book deals with in detail is the “victim” angle. When a woman is blown off by a guy and subsequently makes the excuse for the “why” (give it a name – anything you want), she is then seen as a victim, especially by her friends and family.

As a victim, the sympathy pours in. After all, it’s never a victim’s fault; it just wouldn’t be politically correct to blame a victim, even if the victim isn’t really a victim at all. Any show of weakness or vulnerability when it comes to dating can make a woman a victim, and the excuse-making really reinforces the whole wounded perception.

As a result, of course, those closest to said victim will help to strengthen and even create new excuses and reasons that the guy in question doesn’t want to date. All the while, the woman in question is just missing the writing on the wall and failing to realize that the guy simply doesn’t want to proceed with a relationship.

The book suggests that, as a friend, you never contribute to this. You need to help break the cycle and not create more excuses. Don’t be an enabler. And if you’re the one playing the victim, snap out of it!

The Other Sex

Men will always be men. There is really no secret formula to make any guy act against his nature. This means he’s not going to naturally open up to you and tell you how he’s feeling. Women usually will. When they’re not into a guy, they let it be known; and if they’re not direct about it, they’re at least a little more than subtle with the hints.

Men often find little reason to hold onto a woman who’s not into them, unless they’re a basket-case half a stalker or something. And this is most likely due to the way we’re able to communicate our feelings with one another.

On the other hand, women are often left out there on the ledge, not knowing for certain if men actually want to proceed with the relationship, and this has led to all the excuses and all the many women more than willing to play the victim’s role.

He’s Just Not That into You helps women to recognize a guy’s lack of interest where a guy might be too subtle to express it. Men aren’t exactly the types to look you in the eye and tell you that things just aren’t working out and that he wants to call it quits. They usually let contact lapse until feelings fall by the wayside, inadvertently leaving some women clinging on and ultimately burning bridges when it’s all said and done.

On its merits as a dating book, this is a great piece for the woman who needs to get over that hurdle of being a victim and needs to start gaining control of relationships. Just because he doesn’t spell it out doesn’t mean it’s any less true, and He’s Just Not That into You will help you realize it.

Lessons Learned from Dating Books is a post from: Dating Sites

While it’s true that most dating sites you check out online will be relatively the same, most guys are not, despite the overabundance of clichés out there stating otherwise.

In order to attract the type of guy you want, here are a few tips to try

Play to your strengths

None of us really enjoy filling out all of those details on a dating site profile. But if we’re hoping to attract the right type of people, then we need to be abundantly clear about what we want. The idea here is to play well to your personal strengths. Talk about what you know, and leave the rest a mystery. This way, you’re being informative about who you are and what you want, yet you’re still leaving an air of intrigue.

Let him see a lot of you

You should think about using your dating site like a social networking site. Posting multiple photos is a good thing. Let him see you in multiple situations – hanging out with friends, alone, with your pet/family members, etc. You don’t want the photos to be too revealing, but you still want the guy to see who you are. As they say, a picture is worth a thousand words. So remember that a few thousand words are better.

Be selective, not picky

When you do get approached by every random schmo on the site, remember that it’s fine to be selective and to stick with the type of guy you’re looking for. Being picky, however, might result in missing a golden opportunity. In other words, if the guy meets your main qualifications, then go for it. If he has a few minor details you don’t like, try to ignore them.

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Could he be leading you on? It’s not at all uncommon for a guy to seem interested in you, when all the while he really isn’t interested at all. Check out some of the reasons that guys decide to lead girls on.

Mr. Nice Guy

Guys typically love the play the nice guy, especially via online dating sites. This can backfire in the dating site format, however. He may be a little too nice, and you may take it as a sign that he likes you when, in reality, he wants nothing to do with you in that way.

Attention Hound

Don’t get it twisted here: guys absolutely love the attention they receive from ladies. It makes them feel wise and strong and all those little good things we all crave. It’s not at all uncommon for a guy to lead a girl on simply because he enjoys the positive attention she gives him.

Befuddled

People get confused about where they stand in relationships in general, but you will find that this increases at least twofold via online dating sites. The constant back-and-forth battle on whether a guy wants a girlfriend or not – it’s on display front and center, and you might fall victim to a guy’s constant indecision.

Fielders

Some guys certainly enjoy playing the field. They will keep you around, so to speak, just to have an extra on the team. So if it doesn’t work out with so and so, or if his options somehow end up limited, or even if he eventually makes a decision, he wants you to be there. He will lead you on until that time.

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When using online dating sites, be sure to heed these next five tips in order to avoid putting your eggs in the wrong basket – tips 6-10.

6: The Future

If a guy is very hesitant about mentioning his future plans, or if they are mentioned but just don’t involve you, then you can be sure that he’s not on the same level with you. If he was, you would come up in his life plans – even via online dating sites, he’d still want to mention you.

7: The Cruelty

Okay, so maybe he’s not down-right mean, but his lack of compassion and genuine kindness can be a sign that he’s not thinking about you in “that” way. Pay attention to how he treats you. If he isn’t kind and sympathetic to you, then he simply doesn’t care enough to be.

8: So What

Most guys who really care about you will show a great interest in the people and things you also care about. If he doesn’t, then he’s trying to say that he doesn’t find these things important to him, and thus doesn’t find you as that important.

9: Dateless Nights

When relationships are forged through online dating sites, guys usually waste no time in trying to initiate a live encounter. So if he isn’t trying to plan dates with you or isn’t even speaking about possibly meeting you in person, then it might be best to move on to the next guy.

10: Blank Pages

In this day and age, guys and girls usually exchange MySpace, Twitter, and Facebook pages within minutes. If you’ve been speaking to him for a period of time but he still hasn’t mentioned you—directly or indirectly—on your social networking sites, then he’s probably not thinking of you at all outside of the one-on-one conversations you’re having.

Is He Into You? Part Two is a post from: Dating Sites

If you’re entering into the dating sites game in order to meet someone new, then you’ll probably be looking around for some useful information. If you’ve been in a relationship before, then you already have some great info to work from.

What can you learn from your exes and use on dating sites to meet someone new?

How to blend
A big part of dating, whether it’s through dating sites or out there in the real world, is about two people having to meet in the middle, so to speak, in order to become one organic part – a couple. For this, you have to blend, you have to meld well. Being in any relationship is a learning opportunity here. You already know how—or maybe how not—to approach this blending. It’s something you learned from your ex.

How to work the fight/flight
Every couple fights, that’s just a part of relationships. And every couple treads lightly at times. Being in a previous relationship, you know when fights got too heated and when it was time to stand up for yourself. Use this information wisely going forward. The idea is to not fall into the same traps that spelled disaster in your last relationship.

How to recognize talent
What was it about your partner that made you fall for them? Can you even remember at this point? Well, it may be something that you won’t have to remember. Being in previous relationships should help you to instantly recognize chemistry and compatibility when you see it. This is something else that your ex gave you that you weren’t even aware of. Something you can definitely put to use on dating sites.

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This advice is mostly for the guys.  For the girls, sadly, it is still mostly the case that the only things you can do to increase your chance online are to have a good looking profile picture, and to avoid mentioning Twilight in your bio.  Under no circumstances should your bio pics include cats or dogs – that’s what Facebook is for.

For the guys, however, here are some top tips for getting more dates online:

1)     This is not Facebook. It’s important to remember that there is a great deal less beating-around-the-bush when everybody has paid for a month’s subscription to a dating site.  Everyone is single, and everyone is looking.  Keep this in mind, but don’t treat anyone like they’re easy meat.

2)     Use your words – Cheesy pickup lines won’t usually work, and since the first contact you’ll have with someone is usually an email or instant message, you better learn to be good with written communication. Avoid smileys and ‘text speak’, because the chances are it will put most people off.

Learn to write in your language, and learn to write well. If you grew up using chat rooms, you’re probably already familiar with how to handle this.  If you were more of a jock in school, you’ll need to learn how to woo women using your brain.

3)     Stick to the ‘Three Email Rule’ – Three emails is what it should take to set up a date.  Not a ‘we should go out sometime’ date, but a ‘McLarens, Tuesday, 9pm’ kind of arrangement. If it takes longer than that, you risk ending up in the online version of the ‘Friend Zone’.

The first email should open up the conversation by commenting on something you both have in common (based on your profiles), the second should be a clear expression of interest, and the third should be ‘I know this great place near where you work...’

4)     Be honest, but not self-deprecating. One of the most unattractive qualities in a man is a lack of self-confidence.  If you work in a bar, say that, and don’t apologize for it. If that’s a deal-breaker for a girl, she’s probably not for you.  If she doesn’t care what kind of a job you have, the only thing that will turn her off is you appearing to be ashamed of what you do for a living, how much you earn, or what you look like.

5)     Don’t look like a douche in your profile picture. The duck-face thing.  Just stop doing it. Don’t show off your abs, and don’t make that silly goofy sexy face.  It might work for some people, but the majority of potential partners will be a major turn off. Put up a variety of pictures – even some that are slightly unflattering (but make sure if they’re unflattering that you at least look like you’re having a good time).

If you end up getting a date, but disappoint because you look nothing like your profile, there won’t be a second date.

How to Get Dates Online is a post from: Dating Sites

Patience is important when using online dating sites. You don’t want to jump at the first guy you meet who seems like he’s a good match for you. While it’s true that he really may be, you still want to slow down and make sure he’s the right guy.

So, how can you meet the right guy?

Volume

This might not sound like something that’s up your alley, but entertaining more than one option is always ideal. In fact, when using online dating sites, entertaining a few options is probably the better choice. By having a few options, you can start to look for qualities in each of the guys that stand out to you. From there, you should be able to easily deduce what you want from a guy and if he’s right for you.

Detective Work

If you think you’re getting closer to meeting the right guy, this is where you can play the detective and start digging for information. You don’t want to be intrusive, but you still need to know certain things about him – his background, his career, his in-depth personality, his aspirations, etc.

Patience

Patience is a thing that’s underrated with dating sites. Because of the high amount of traffic, it’s easy to meet people and to quickly go out on a date. But the right guy for you will want to be patient. He’ll want to know more about you before you two actually become a couple. So if he’s willing to be patient with you, you know you’re on to something good.

How to Meet the Right Guy is a post from: Dating Sites

Get A Good Boyfriend All Around

Knowing how to get a good boyfriend via dating sites is a blend of art, science and that all-important gut feeling. Follow a few simple steps to help you land the best guy out there.

Give to Get

These dating site tips are steps, with the first being the most important, as it’s the set-up. What we mean by “give to get” is simple: you want to project all of your positive qualities into your profile so that you’re attracting the best guys out there. Be genuine and open, telling people a lot about you and making sure that you make clear you’re only after good guys. Don’t be a one-size-fits-all dater.

Be a Proofreader

More than likely, if you’ve been thorough with your dating profile and uploaded some photos, you’ll begin to receive various emails and pokes from guys interested in you. If you’re after the best guy, then you’re going to have to read what every guy has to say. Don’t go by looks alone here, and don’t get hung up on minor details that could throw you off, like a person’s job, political leanings, religion, etc. Judge on personality and overall fit for you.

Shyness is for the Birds

A lot of ladies joining online dating sites are a little bit on the shy side. They want to attract the best guys, but they don’t want to necessarily initiate contact. If you find a guy you think is right for you, but he hasn’t reached out, be sure that you do the reaching.

Leap of Faith

After you’ve initially met the guy, read about him, done a little bit of detective work, etc, it’s time to trust your gut. At the end of the day, after every step is followed and every precaution taken, it’s about taking that leap of faith to get to the next level. This is something no one else can help you with. The power is in your hands.

How to Get a Good Boyfriend is a post from: Dating Sites