Blind Dates: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly

A blind date, in case you’ve never been on one, is a date that is set up by mutual friends, or even through an online dating website, where neither parties have ever laid eyes on the person before.  However, that was what you called a blind date back in the 1980s.  In today’s world of technology, Facebook, email and mobile phones it’s actually pretty darn difficult not to lay eyes on someone before you go out on a blind date with them.

So a blind date these days isn’t really blind, because you’ve usually seen a picture or two.  But a picture on Facebook isn’t the end of the story – you might just not like the person, even though they’re really physically attractive.  Let’s look at the good, the bad, and the ugly, of blind dates.

The Good

The humble blind date really doesn’t get enough credit.  If I think about it, most of my good relationships, or even just the fun dates I’ve been on, have started with a blind set up.  But like I mentioned, this was lubricated by the fact that I’d seen pictures of the person before the date, and so had some idea of whether or not I was interested.

What makes blind dates fun is that you will normally be set up by some mutual friends (usually a mischievous matchmaking couple) who think you two are ‘perfect’ for each other.  And you just might be.

The Bad

Some people don’t interview well, despite being strong candidates for a job.  Some people don’t do first dates well. Nerves have a lot to do with it, and there’s a good chance you’re not seeing the person at their best and most relaxed. Sometimes they are as boring as watching grass grow.  This is where digital communications come in.  Spend a few emails or text messages getting to know each other on a basic level, so that you’re not complete strangers when you meet.  Don’t give them the third degree treatment, but show a casual interest in their hobbies and likes.

The Ugly

It happens to the best of us.  Most women think that all of their girlfriends are beauty queens, and most guys reckon their best mate is the most awesome dude on the planet.  But sometimes they really just aren’t that easy on the eyes, and we know we could do better.  This is where digital media is not your friend, and cropping for profile pictures becomes your sworn enemy.

Remember that lovely-looking girl from the top of the article?

If this ever happens to you, you might find yourself wondering how to end a date in a hurry.  Unfortunately, unless you met the person through an online dating site, you probably have some mutual friends, and so the best course of action is to just try to enjoy yourself, and end the date without agreeing to another one.  That way you’ll avoid any serious hassles with your circle of friends.